Hey Queen Reader 🖤👑,

What if God isn’t giving you a new assignment…He’s recalibrating how you steward the one He already gave you?

Recently, I realized that one of my fears had quietly taken over something God asked me to do.

I’ve been in the event industry for as long as I can remember. Even when I was deep in my first love of dance, I was planning video shoots, photo shoots, and unforgettable experiences. My last big-girl job (lol) was as an Event Manager. My vision wasn’t the best then either, but baybeee, we made things shake.

But somewhere between 2023 and about a month ago, I lost the drive.

As my vision made certain things more difficult—and being declared legally blind made everything feel more real—fear began creeping into something I once felt confident doing.

Even while planning last year’s Sunset Walk, I feared making one grand mistake because I overlooked something. I worried that the wrong communication would go out because I couldn’t see a date clearly. I feared not being able to memorize faces, recognize the Queens later, or build the kind of rapport that matters so deeply to me. Underneath all of it, I was asking God:

“How am I supposed to keep bringing Your kiddos together the way You want me to if my vision is an issue?”

God didn’t give me an immediate, crystal-clear answer. But He kept placing me in positions where I had to serve.

Then, about a month ago, I was helping with an in-person event when the organizer asked me to take everyone’s food orders and write them down.

Chile…I was dreading it. 😂

Taking a food order sounds simple—until you can’t fully trust that you’ll see every detail correctly. What if I wrote down the wrong thing? What if I couldn’t read it back? What if everyone was waiting on me while I struggled through something that should have been easy Everything in me wanted somebody else to handle it.

But the moment came, the orders started coming in, and I stayed in it. I asked for support when I needed it, another set of eyes helped fill in the gaps, and the thing I had spent so much time dreading was done with more ease than I expected.

Not because my limitation disappeared, but because support made room for me to do what initially felt impossible.

That seemingly small moment revealed something much bigger: maybe the difficulty wasn’t proof that I couldn’t do it. Maybe God was teaching me how to do it differently.

Because while I was learning to check my limits and ask for help, people still valued my opinion. They asked for consultations and sought my advice about executing their events. God was showing me that I could acknowledge my present limitations without allowing them to erase my wisdom, experience, or value.

That’s when it clicked.

The planning and logistics are still where I thrive. My vision has shifted, but my wisdom didn’t disappear. My execution may need an extra eye or two, but that doesn’t mean I’m no longer qualified.

My situation does not negate my wisdom in this area.

In Exodus 18, Moses was trying to carry the responsibility of serving the people alone. His father-in-law, Jethro, told him:

“What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone.” — Exodus 18:17–18

The answer wasn’t for Moses to abandon the assignment. The answer was to change the way he carried it.

Whew.

Sometimes we aren’t grieving the assignment itself. We’re grieving the way we thought we would carry it.

I had begun to believe that if I couldn’t execute events the way I once did, maybe I shouldn’t do them at all. But asking for help can be part of faithful stewardship. Sometimes another set of eyes is part of the strategy.

The way I do this may change, but that doesn’t change the impact it will have. I’m so grateful for this revelation—grateful that the assignment hasn’t died, but has taken a new turn that makes me feel more certain I’m stepping in the direction He called me to.

Queen, has fear convinced you to walk away from something God may only be asking you to approach differently?

Maybe your health, capacity, finances, family, or responsibilities changed. But different doesn’t automatically mean impossible—and needing a new strategy doesn’t make you unqualified.

You don’t have to solve the entire assignment this week, sis.

Just take one recalibrated step.

Send the message. Revisit the idea. Ask for help. Research the tool. Write the first paragraph. Give yourself permission to discover what could become possible with support.

And if you feel comfortable, hit reply and tell me:

What is one recalibrated step God may be inviting you to take?

I’d be honored to encourage you and pray with you as you take it.

With grace, renewed perspective, and a strategy that may require an extra eye or two, 😂

Gianina 💛

A Small Note Before We Close

One thing God has been teaching me in this season is that returning also means receiving.

For a long time, I believed I had to carry everything on my own. But I'm learning that obedience also looks like allowing others to partner with what God is building.

If Holy Tea or the AQDI community has encouraged you, challenged you, or simply reminded you that you're not walking this journey alone, and you feel led to sow into what God is doing here, I'd be incredibly grateful.

Whether you sow financially, pray for this community, or simply keep showing up each month, thank you for being part of this journey. I'm grateful you're still rocking with us. 💛

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